life

  • We Are Family

    Here I am on December 26, 2025 looking back 5 years ago to the Christmas of December, 2020. This was a time in my life, when I was so lost and disconnected from everyone and everything except my own grief… Continue reading

    We Are Family
  • Continuing Loving Bonds Through Meditation

    Five years ago, when my beloved spouse John Scull died, I was so grateful for my background in Quaker silent worship and Buddhist meditation. During the days, months and what is now years that have gone by, meditation has kept… Continue reading

    Continuing Loving Bonds Through Meditation
  • Qualitative Research Into Continuing Loving Bonds

    What does the quotation “Death ends a life but not a relationship.” really mean? For the past year, I have been guiding small groups of people to explore that question during Continuing Loving Bonds Story Sharing Circles. The circles will… Continue reading

    Qualitative Research Into Continuing Loving Bonds
  • Practices For Transforming Grief Back Into Love

    “That time I thought I could not go any closer to grief without dying I went closer. I did not die. Surely God had his hand in this, as well as friends…So I went practicing. Have you noticed? Have you… Continue reading

    Practices For Transforming Grief Back Into Love
  • Across the Veil Constellations

    On October 7, 2024 (the day I turned 70) my birthday gift to myself was to send the final draft of my memoir off to the publishers. Just before pressing the send button, I typed this wish into the preface… Continue reading

    Across the Veil Constellations
  • Ted and Irene Grant: A LOVE STORY

    I only met Canada’s legendary photojournalist, Ted Grant, once. But, our meeting was important enough that (after he died) he came to me in a dream and asked me to write the story of the great love he shared with… Continue reading

    Ted and Irene Grant: A LOVE STORY
  • Marian Comes Home

    Here is a new Continuing Loving Bonds Blog Post for you to read and perhaps forward on to others who want to explore practices for transforming deep grief back into the deep love it has always been. Previous posts can… Continue reading

    Marian Comes Home
  • Anniversary Gifts

    John died five years ago today. As happens to me dozens of days each year, on every anniversary of every special occasion since he died, I am finding myself – against my will – struggling. My instincts are screaming at… Continue reading

    Anniversary Gifts
  • In Memory of Our Not Yet Children

    Trigger warning: This post is about continuing our loving bonds with our babies who died before being born. A few weeks ago, I received a letter of apology that let loose a flood of memories. During the past fifty years,… Continue reading

    In Memory of Our Not Yet Children
  • Signs, Messages, and After-Death Communication.

    During the past five years, there has been so much research into what has come to be called “After Death Communication” (ADC). Survey research reports that 30-80% of people encounter one, a few or many ADC messages in the days,… Continue reading

    Signs, Messages, and After-Death Communication.